True security isn’t found in perfectionism, performance or in my own goodness. Knowing God in his goodness allows me to let go of the false illusion of perfectionism and accept my weakness, confidence that his strength and grace are enough to make me truly perfect in his eyes.
Secure in Heart
In life we are always striving for something. We are always looking for greater. We want better conditions whatever they may be. It may be a better job. It may more be friends. It may be a romantic relationship. It may be better appearance. It may be moving to a new city. The list could go on and on with things that we think could make our lives better. If only we could do better in our roles then maybe we’d be happier. If only we made more money then things would be much better. If only we had that special someone then your perfect life would be complete.
I want to simply let you know that you’re enough. You’re enough for God and God longs to be enough for you. Whatever position you are in life at this very moment is enough. You don’t have to do more. The glo up isn’t necessary. You are right where you need to be. You are right where God wants you and it’s enough.
I am a perfectionist. I’ve always known that about myself and it’s never been something that I’ve ever been ashamed to admit. Lately though I’ve realized what the roots of my perfectionism really look like. It looks like insecurity. At the root of perfectionism is the need to please. If not the need to please anyone else it’s the need to please myself. I can’t honestly say that it is the need to please God because God never asked me to perfect. He never asked me to get it right every single time. In fact, he knows that I’ll make mistakes and has already decided to love me like crazy anyway. I’ve come to realize that in my perfectionism and in my striving I’m finding my contentment outside of God. I’m finding contentment in my idea of a good life and that is so disappointing. When I look back over journals I realize just how easy it is to praise God when everything is going smooth, however when the waters are raging I’m asking God to get me out of here. But why? If Jesus Christ is truly the same yesterday, today and forever then why do we find ourselves doubting God due to circumstances when he’s the same God you just praised when everything was going great! (These are questions I asked myself.)
Hebrews 13:8 Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever
Psalm 46:10 Cease striving and and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the Earth.
You don’t have to do anything else to be great. Queen you are. Conqueror you are. Overcomer you are. Strong you are. Beautiful you are. You are….enough. When you think you aren’t good enough. Remember this. God is good. When you think that there’s some other act that you need to perform to be “it” or to be “chose” or to be “accepted” or to be “on.” Remember that God put you on. God chose you. God accepted you when Jesus went to the cross. If it takes any more than that then honey neither you nor I can do it.
I’ve been reading this new book entitled Secure in Heart and it gets to the source of all these other things that we as women can tend to find our security in. You know there are a lot of things that I never thought about as me putting my trust in but the more God continues to expose my heart the more I begin to see how my actions dictate where my trust really lies. But the amazing thing about me coming to all of these realizations is that IT’S OK. I don’t have to beat myself up about things I see as shortcomings. I don’t have to walk around ashamed of the fact that I am imperfect. It’s actually pretty freeing to be able to go to God and say “Yo I already know you saw me screw that up. God please help my heart to look more like yours in that area.” That is exactly the response that God wants. And the results?
I am FREE! I’ve learned to appreciate the atypical things in life so much more. I find so much more joy just being in my natural state and not having to be on. By on I mean hair in place, nails perfect, eyeliner just right, bossed up. Now amen I enjoy ALL those things. But we must come to a place in which that is our reality not because we feel that it must be but simply because that’s how we like doing life. By the same token we must also be okay if that’s not how we like doing life.If you prefer the chucks and not the heels then amen. If you prefer the weave and not the natural trend then amen. If getting a masters degree isn’t the desire of your heart then amen. Be you! Be free! It is so much more rewarding and it is ok.
So here’s the challenge… to learn to accept and befriend you for exactly who God created you to be. I’m learning more and more about myself everyday. Sometimes I do not like what I see. Sometimes I love what I see. All the time whatever I see is ok. If it’s something that needs to be changed then I work towards it. If it’s something that I would prefer changed then I work towards it. If I’m fine with the way that it is then I embrace it.
I challenge you to be so busy doing you and doing life that you lose the time to try to prove to anyone else that life for you is happening. Get so caught up in the fun that you forget to take a picture. Get so engulfed in the conversations that you don’t want to respond to text messages. Laugh so hard that you get that ab workout that you skipped this morning. Live. And only be required to show God the fruits of your labor. I’ll leave you with one scripture that encourages my soul, but still helps me to keep fun in perspective.
Ecclesiastes 11:9-10 Young people, it’s wonderful to be young! Enjoy every minute of it. Do everything you want to do; take it all in. But remember that you must give an account to God for everything you do. So refuse to worry, and keep your body healthy. But remember that youth, with a whole life before you, is meaningless.
Check out this song by Kari Jobe that has become one of my favorites
–>What Love is This